Some of us would make lousy therapists, lol.
Offering personal perspectives and ideas are only useful insofar as the other party is open, or has a similar measure of resolve, or is similarly wired to think in a certain way. “Just only buy what you need,” doesn’t come close to addressing a root cause for why some of us feel a certain rush to sell a body part for a sample library.
I actually think the many, many inquiries and threads that get started are about people wanting to be spared, or have someone else divine on their behalf whether or not a gamble will pay off. Moreover, there is an innate selfishness that actually thrives here - as it does in human nature itself - where the inquiries surrounding a new purchase are hoping someone else will take the fall first, and report back early.
Hence, my pseudo-serious suggestion to break this down to the barest expectations, which is to continue to share strategies, yes, but set a three month or six month goal where you know others are reminding each other of the same goal. Not unlike when I trained to run a marathon, and the team that ran at my pace was often the very thing that kept each of us focused on achieving that goal.
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So beginning today, Saturday, June 8, 2019, I am announcing a personal moratorium on purchasing any sample libraries for the next three months, until Sunday, September 8, 2019. At that time, I may treat myself to something special, but not until such date arrives. I invite others to join me, either publicly so stating, or via a PM. Free libraries are exempt.
If today is not a good time for you to join me, then consider beginning sometime within the next two weeks, and I will extend my moratorium, accordingly - in solidarity.
In saying this, I know what has been teased, promoted, and that which tempts me already will not abate, just as I also know the wealth of options I currently use. Where my “needs” and “wants” are often confused, I hope to also clarify such objectives over the course of the next three months, during which time I endeavor to also complete the personal ballet project I have been working on, with the tools I currently have at my disposal.
If one begins, but feels they cannot continue the three-month journey, there will be no judgement. If one feels an even shorter term goal is more attainable, hang out during the three months and consider yourself supported, nevertheless. Three months is arbitrary, for the most part, where any personal goal of abstaining is what matters most.
So help us.
EDIT: I forgot to add: "Musicians helping Musicians."